WHAT READERS ARE SAYING…
As someone who never wanted to have children, it was great to read Karin’s book as I recognized myself all the way. I only wished it had been available to me when I was younger and felt deeply troubled by not being like everyone else. It would have given me a great sense of relief. I’m so glad it’s out there now to women who are struggling with this issue.
- Anja Lysholm, review on Amazon
Many times throughout the book I felt as though I was reading the secret diary of someone. It contains an important message that needs to get across to the public: Women who deselect motherhood are neither villains nor victims. They do not deserve to be treated with disdain or pity.
- Sara, excerpt from review on Goodreads
Great personal insight into choosing to be child free. This book was really well written and flowed well for me. As someone who has always loved kids and thought I wanted children of my own it has offered me a unique insight into choosing not to reproduce.
- Olivia Thomas, excerpt from review on Goodreads
Best childfree book I have read in years! A celebration to diversity and free will. It kept me turning the pages for hours on my kindle. Great topics and interesting conversations throughout the entire book! I recommend this book to everybody!
- Andreia Fernandes, excerpt from review on Goodreads
Finally there's a book that fights back against the vilification of (as I call them) "kidless by choice" women. I'm now 67 yrs old, and knew at a very young age (late teens) that I didn't want kids... I've always preferred peace and quiet -- and a good book -- over noise, and few kids are quiet willingly. Final plea? Moms: Do what you wish to do, and extend the same courtesy to me... and others like me. Oh! And maybe teach your kids to respect adults. (And NO, respect is not a right... it must be EARNED based on your actions, and that applies not just to adults, but to kids as well.) Your kids will benefit from those lessons when they grow into adults.
- C.S. McBride, excerpt from review on Amazon
I applaud anyone being smart and strong enough to know they don't want to mother. Motherhood is far more than giving birth, and if one's heart isn't in it, then please DO NOT HAVE KIDS. Kids need 100% parents, and they know ambivalence. There are good points to this book, and women who have chosen early on not to bear children will find a lot to like between these covers. If nothing else, they will find a community of other women who are in their same situation.
- Ella McCrystle, excerpt from review on Goodreads
She never wanted children. Will love change her mind?
Karin has always known that she doesn’t want to become a mother. The man she loves had a vasectomy, so her fear of an unwanted pregnancy is gone forever. Finally, living the life of her dreams, she’s completely unaware that her emotional world is going to turn upside down.
One day Karin finds herself confronted with a strong feeling of strange uncertainty, and after a while, she surprisingly discovers that in fact, she’s on the fence about motherhood.
Now, Karin realizes that she has to make a decision that has the power of changing everything: Will she regret not having children with her perfect partner? Or will she have to leave him to have children with another man?
In this book, you will discover:
- Why making a personal decision doesn’t mean that you will never again deal with the choice of having children or not,
- The challenges of focusing on the woman you are when dealing with societal expectations, myths, and prejudices,
- How uncertainty makes you highly inclined to pay attention to what other people think about your lifestyle, rather than making your own confident decision,
- To find your true calling, you have to acknowledge that femininity and motherhood are two separate concepts that do not necessarily go together, and
- What matters the most is being on the same page as a couple.
Do I Have To Be A Mother? is a memoir about feelings of love, unspoken thoughts on motherhood, and considerations on what it means to be a woman. If you like reading about women who have found their own way in this world, you will love the author’s crucial search for her female identity in this book.
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